Domestically Dunn

The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes. -Harold B Lee

Trying To Remember October 29, 2009

Filed under: Motherhood — domesticallydunn @ 10:17 pm


In this season of sickness and exhaustion I am having a hard time being thankful for the little things. At night I feel guilty that I often just want to get the kids to bed so I can have some time for myself. During the day I rarely get a chance to sit down without having to get someone a drink, or an apple, or rinse a paci, or change a pair of wet underpants, or pick up a bowl of  Cheerios for a bawling, devastated toddler- because spilling Cheerios is the END OF THE WORLD!

But then there are little things that remind me to enjoy this time.  Tonight as Lovebug and I were brushing his teeth, it hit me that he wasn’t going to need my help much longer.  That thought was like swallowing a bowling ball, not just a lump.  And ironically enough, just as I was writing this, he came down from bed because he wanted some “popcorn”.  He settled for a 5 minute cuddle with Mommy before being escorted back upstairs. 🙂

So many times I have a “can’t wait until….” mentality.   (We interrupt this post because Lovebug is back again. This time he is not greeted as favorably, lol.  As I was saying..) “I can’t wait until Lovebug does this, or doesn’t do that.”  Ahem.

I really need to work on enjoying the present without fast forwarding to a point in my mind that will be easier or more enjoyable.  The reality is that my life is filled with amazing moments every day, and I think I miss many of them because I see things as inconveniences.   Another (much-needed) perspective might show me these times are just extra opportunities to show love to these little human beings, who God most graciously gave me.

I have a quote above my sink that reads:

“The days are long, but the years are short.”

Oh my, this is so true.  It is such a good reminder to treasure every moment I am given with my children, even if those moments are not in the ideal scenarios.  I am sure there will come a time where I would give anything to be able to get Lovebug one more drink of water, or to wake up with Lulu at 5 a.m. for a feeding.

Well….. maybe not at 5 a.m. 🙂


5 Responses to “Trying To Remember”

  1. sandra Sayers Says:

    I really enjoyed reading what you wrote 🙂 It is so very true. I don’t have kids, so I can’t fully understand..but I have a nephew and I have worked in day cares! Kids can certainly exhaust you sometimes!…. One way in which I can relate…there are things in my life (whether it be people, job, health, friends.etc..) that I so easily (though not purposefully) just take for granted thinking it will always be this way or that..and its almost like I blink my eyes and time or circumstances has dramatically changed it…and what I once thought was tiresome or hard was actually something I missed when gone.. What you said also reminded me of my little bro.. When I was younger my mom would tell me stories of how my little brother use to scream and throw temper tantrums and yell “NO” to any stranger that said hi to him when they passed by or how he would get into everything, once locking himself in the bathroom and putting on ALL her make up…..Those times weren’t easy and though they were stressful, when he had his accident and things changed completely, she use to say she would give anything to hear him throw a tantrum again or scream “NO” at a stranger… What you said spoke to my heart in a big way..A good way. Thanks for sharing…Its so important to seize the day..and give it all you have 🙂 Hope all is well with the Dunn Family! The picture you posted is adorable!


  2. Kristin Says:

    Ash- that’s such a great perspective! I’m like this with lots of things…it applies even if you don’t have kids!

  3. Autumn Says:

    Ashley, this is just what I needed today. Thanks so much for your perspective and for sharing it. It’s been a morning where I keep being beckoned by my little man who wants more cereal or more peaches as I try to get things done. This was a great reminder for me! Gotta go, the little man is calling! 😉

  4. Robin Says:

    Amen, sister! So true! Thanks so much for posting this! I have to remind myself that this is just a season and I need to cherish each and every moment regardless of how exhausted I am, or frustrated, b/c before I know it, my boys will be grown : (. Having children is so humbling, isn’t it? I’m reminded daily how selfish I am and how I need to die to my flesh. As hard as it is, there are those small things that are so special- a hug, kiss, a new word, a laugh- and I wouldn’t trade it for the world! Hope you all feel better soon!

  5. Mom #2 Says:

    I have a lump in my throat reading this…remembering back to those days when your HUSBAND (!) and his sister were my charges from a Most Kind Giver. Some things never change…like MOTHERHOOD! HOORAY for MOTHERHOOD!!!…what a wonderful thing it is!! GREAT READ!!! xoxoxox

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