Domestically Dunn

The most important work you and I will ever do will be within the walls of our own homes. -Harold B Lee

A Very Ordinary Day March 2, 2011

Filed under: Jesus Thoughts,Motherhood,Uncategorized — domesticallydunn @ 4:20 pm

It’s been a long time, I know.  But I felt like writing today.  So here goes:

Waking up this morning was hard.  I had stayed up way too late on my ipod reading comments on Amazon and other blogs about Ann Voskamp’s new  book, deciding if I want to get it.  And I think I do.   Since I wanted to sleep a little later today, (I normally wake way before the rest of the fam) of course it was the day that my sweet Lovebug woke up earlier than he has in at least a month.   So that meant no alone time with my Lord.

It has been a hard couple of weeks.  It all began two Sundays ago when my son began vomiting after church and since then someone has been vomiting nearly every other day.  Throw a two year old’s bladder infection, yeast infection (which resulted in her not urinating for at one point 16 hours), and two colds into the mix and you get a very weary Momma.  Lovebug started vomiting again this Sunday afternoon, and was fine by Monday evening, and so Tuesday the Hubs was right on time… driving down the highway when it all began.  I feel bad for the people driving around him.  I had to clean it off our car, but it’s different when you love the person you are cleaning up after.  🙂

The kids are doing great now… they are such troopers.  But when I woke up this morning I felt sorry for myself.  I feel like I have been on a treadmill, nothing ever staying accomplished, clean, or even healthy for long.  I have been exhausted and achy on and off for the last week and a half.  I finally get all the puke laundry done, only to be swimming in it once again…  Woe is me… can you hear it too?

I knew immediately that I needed to sit down and block everything else out and ask the Lord for some perspective on the day.  But the time just kept being put off.  One more juice, one  more water,  one more can I have this, can you help me with this,  one more scream cause Lovebug looked at Lulu wrong, and ten more frustrated whines that things aren’t going their way.    And all the while I am whining in my soul, wondering how much of what I am doing really matters and will the kids remember anything I try everyday to invest into them, because sometimes it feels like all I am a maid with a broken record for a voice.

I finally get everyone settled in for a few minutes and I sit down in our big comfy chair with a cup of coffee, figuring I have maybe five minutes.   I open up my heart to the Lord with all my guilt for my attitude and complaints because am I not supposed to be a servant, am I not supposed to find joy in serving?   I eventually find my way to the Psalms.  “The Lord is my strength”,  “The Lord is my rock” , and immediately I don’t feel alone.   Yes I am tired, and yes my body is weary, but God is my strength in this day and in everyday.  The strength to prepare one more meal, do one more load of laundry, the strength to be gentle when my patience is waning.    And as always I realize the guilt isn’t from Him, it never is.   It’s only the guilt I feel of not living up to my unreachable standards.   The grace I feel, the grace I want to extend is His way.   And suddenly I can breathe.

The kids find thier way from the dining room back into the living room to play with thier newly created airplane out of a box.  They both have thier own seats divided  by a sheet of cardboard down the middle.  Lovebug is steering and Lulu is playing with a bear that sings songs.  I grab another cup of coffee wondering how I drank the first so quickly, and sit down to just watch.  The bear sings “I love you, I love you, morning, noon, and night.  I love you, I love you, you make the world so bright.”

So Ann Voskamp’s book is about finding Him, finding Joy in the everyday ordinary.

Lovebug listening to the song, mumbles something under his breath.   It takes me a minute but I realized what he said: “No, you don’t make the world so bright.  Jesus does.”  I smile and my heart leaps.  This is exactly what I needed to hear, and from the very mouth I needed to hear it.   I thank the Lord for this moment, feeling Him reassuring me that my efforts are not in vain.   I find Him in this moment, this very ordinary moment of extraordinary value in my heart.   

And I can’t help but wonder if I would have had this moment but for all the sickness, laundry, and fatigue.  Probably not.  And so I’ll count it as a gift.  I’ll call it #1.

You can check out Ann’s book here

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A Dunn Family Update February 21, 2010

Filed under: Motherhood — domesticallydunn @ 11:43 pm
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Oh my.  It has been a really long time since I have posted here!  The months have flown by so fast!  Over the holidays, Lulu learned to walk and now she is all over the place.  It makes it more difficult to keep up with my kids, but also even more fun!  I turned her car seat around two weeks ago, and it felt so weird.  I have had a baby either in my belly or in my arms for 3 1/2  years.  And now I don’t have babies anymore… I have “toddlers”.

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Anyways, I thought I would just kind of do an update of what we have been up to in this season!  Here are some random tidbits in no particular order:

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Lovebug has really been into golfing, hunting (not quite sure how I feel about this yet :/ ), tractors, and of course making music- basically what he sees any of the guys he adores doing.   He is constantly sorting his golf balls and finding new places to stash them.  Among the many places I have found large amounts of golf balls is in my bed, on the widowsills, in the ice/water compartment on the fridge, in his play kitchen’s oven, in his sister’s baby doll carrier, in a ride-on toy, and under couch pillows.  That’s of course besides his golf bag and toolbox, where they are actually supposed to be!

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Lovebug and I have a little game between us where he likes if I pretend to cry about how big he is getting to be!  I “cry” and say something like “Boohooo, my baby boy is growing toooooo fast!  I don’t want my baby to grow up!”.  One time after I said this, he said to me “I want to grow up so I can be a big boy and HUNT DEER.”  Are you kidding me?  I just started laughing.  And then crying for real.  Just kidding! 🙂  I just couldn’t believe how he put all of that together and he is only 2!  You see, his pawpaw is a hunter, and he likes to be like his grandfathers.  So he has asked about hunting and guns, but we have told him that he is too young right now but we will see when he gets older.  He put those two things together and came up with being bigger means he gets to hunt.  This kid keeps me on my toes, I am telling ya!

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Like I said before, Lulu is walking and saying 1 word over and over and over again.  It’s “mommy” of course!  She literally says it nearly 50 times in a row, even if I am holding her!  It’s really great until it gets on my nerves.  Is that bad, lol?   She has been attached to her baby doll lately.  She sleeps with two, a mini one and a regular sized one.  I love how tender, sweet, and genuinely nurturing she is with them already.  She holds them and kisses them all the time! I know that means she is going to be an amazing Mama!

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Even though her brother can torture her, Lulu still adores him.  For the most part she wants to be around him, and she loves to hold his hand and kiss him.  He normally feels the same way about her unless he is having a testosterone ladened aggressive moment.  Then he wants to see how hard he can squeeze her hand, or how long he can smash her by laying on her until she starts squawking.  Normally its not very long. 🙂

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In the last six months I have developed a few new hobbies and interests with the main being nutrition.  I really think it has helped us to not have to visit the doctor for a sick visit since May of last year. (We are usually pretty healthy during the summer, but had the dreaded “swine flu” while on vacation.) This includes my husband who normally spends the entire winter taking prescription antibiotics!  I have been amazed at what eating fairly healthy, and taking some supplements can do for your body.  We have incorporated green smoothies into our diets 3-5 times a week, and the kids love them!  I will do a post later on the exact supplements we are taking and why I have chosen them if anyone is interested.

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My creative juices have started flowing again.  I am really enjoying making some “girly” things like hairbows and tutus, and at some point would like to learn to sew some aprons.  A website or facebook page might be soon to follow, although I am having some trouble coming up with a name for this idea.  Any suggestions?

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The hubs has been working harder than ever lately trying to fit one full time job, another nearly full time job, spending time with his children and me, and teaching into one 7 day week.  I must say he is doing it brilliantly and I am so proud of him!

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Okay, so this blovel about sums it up!  I promise to try to post a little more often!

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This is us! December 21, 2009

Filed under: Motherhood — domesticallydunn @ 3:40 pm

We often have deep and intellectual conversations as a family.  This is one we had last night.  I can’t remember what led up to it but here goes:

Lovebug:  Ladybugs make honey!

Hubs:  No, bumble bees make honey.  You like honey!

Lovebug:  No I don’t!

Hubs:  Yes, you do.  You ADORE it!

Lovebug:  I am NOT DORA!!!!  You are a cantaloupe head!  And Mommy is a strawberry head.  And LuLu is a grass head.

Me to Hubs:  You  know, your head does kind of look like a cantaloupe. ( I was referring to him having no hair and the flesh color of the rhine)

Hubs:  No, it doesn’t.  It doesn’t have dimples like a cantaloupe.

Me:  Dimples?  A cantaloupe doesn’t have dimples…

 

Real Productivity December 2, 2009

Filed under: Motherhood,Uncategorized — domesticallydunn @ 5:07 pm
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Right now my kids are sleeping (it has been almost three hours), laundry is almost caught up, 1 bathroom just got cleaned, I have plan for dinner, and my sink has been shined (for you Flylady fans!).  I even got to listen to this podcast while I folded laundry.  Sometimes everything just seems to fall in place, and today is one of those days!

Three years ago, I would have felt like I accomplished nothing with that list.  I would have needed to get more things done to feel “productive”.

But these days, things are different.

Now I have two amazing kids that need me.

And I love that.

 

A Legal Addiction October 31, 2009

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I’ve realized that I am completely addicted to a drug.  Seriously.  The name of my nemesis:  Sugar.

I LOVE cookies, brownies, gelato, candy, white chocolate mochas, and really anything sweet.  My newest favorite concoction: caramel corn.

Although this flu ravaging our household has been completely miserable, there is one good thing that has come of it.  It has helped me become extremely interested in our overall health, and how the foods we eat affect our bodies.  It is fascinating!

After spending some time reading up on sugar and whole foods, I am learning the most detrimental thing to my health is in fact in almost all packaged food.  If it is not grown or living at one time, it contains added sugar.  And LOTS of it!

One of the most startling facts is that the average American consumes almost 1/3 lb of sugar a day, 20 teaspoons of added sugar. This does not include the natural sugars that is in fruit, milk, and vegetables.  That is around 135 lbs  a year!  Considering a can of pepsi has 10 teaspoons of sugar, this is not hard to fathom! This is up from the 1800’s where the average was 5 lbs a YEAR.  With the increased consumption has also come an increase in virtually every disease you can think of including cancer, heart disease, diabetes, depression, allegies, obesity, and so on.  Coincidence?  Hmmm….

One of the most interesting things I have learned so far is how sugar affects our moods and clarity of thought.  I have always known that a person can have a “sugar high”,  but the book Little Sugar Addicts by Kathleen DesMaisons explains how much we as a society are literally addicted to sugar.   Our children especially become addicted to not only candy, but when almost every meal contains processed sugar (think kids yogurt, cereal, crackers, chips, dips, dressings, ketchup, pasta, bread, juice, peanut butter, chicken nuggets, canned fruit, canned veggies, not to mention the obvious like fruit snacks, ice cream, cookies, and baked goods), they become physically dependent on it.  She proposes that most tantrums, crankiness, moodiness, destructive, and out of control behaviors can be linked to sugar dependancy.  She also says that as a child begins to adopt a sugar free diet of natural, whole foods, the child becomes more focused, less irritable, happier, and ultimately more cooperative.

I’m sure most of us have experienced a blood sugar drop.  The thing I never knew before is that it is not normal!  Only when our diet is high in refined sugars does a drop like that occur.  And what makes me feel better when that happens… you guessed it: sugar!  Thus the cycle begins.

Not only am I excited about slowly cutting out the majority of sugars our family consumes, but also adding wholesome foods to our diet.  I can’t wait to see the results in energy, mood, and overall health.  With the hubs working so much, I feel incredibly responsible to make sure what we eat at home is building up his body, and not depleting him of the focus and energy he needs to be able to provide for our family.  In addition, I am hoping to start my kids on a nutritious lifestyle while they are young.

It is kind of ironic to me that I am learning about this right before the biggest sugar filled day of the year.   But I do subscribe to the philosophy “all things in moderation,”  so yes, my family will be participating. 🙂

Besides, a true lifestyle change does not happen overnight, and definitely does not happen when you feel you are being deprived.

I would love to hear any feedback, ideas, recipes, or information you would like to add!  I will be keeping you all updated on our progress!

 

Trying To Remember October 29, 2009

Filed under: Motherhood — domesticallydunn @ 10:17 pm
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In this season of sickness and exhaustion I am having a hard time being thankful for the little things. At night I feel guilty that I often just want to get the kids to bed so I can have some time for myself. During the day I rarely get a chance to sit down without having to get someone a drink, or an apple, or rinse a paci, or change a pair of wet underpants, or pick up a bowl of  Cheerios for a bawling, devastated toddler- because spilling Cheerios is the END OF THE WORLD!

But then there are little things that remind me to enjoy this time.  Tonight as Lovebug and I were brushing his teeth, it hit me that he wasn’t going to need my help much longer.  That thought was like swallowing a bowling ball, not just a lump.  And ironically enough, just as I was writing this, he came down from bed because he wanted some “popcorn”.  He settled for a 5 minute cuddle with Mommy before being escorted back upstairs. 🙂

So many times I have a “can’t wait until….” mentality.   (We interrupt this post because Lovebug is back again. This time he is not greeted as favorably, lol.  As I was saying..) “I can’t wait until Lovebug does this, or doesn’t do that.”  Ahem.

I really need to work on enjoying the present without fast forwarding to a point in my mind that will be easier or more enjoyable.  The reality is that my life is filled with amazing moments every day, and I think I miss many of them because I see things as inconveniences.   Another (much-needed) perspective might show me these times are just extra opportunities to show love to these little human beings, who God most graciously gave me.

I have a quote above my sink that reads:

“The days are long, but the years are short.”

Oh my, this is so true.  It is such a good reminder to treasure every moment I am given with my children, even if those moments are not in the ideal scenarios.  I am sure there will come a time where I would give anything to be able to get Lovebug one more drink of water, or to wake up with Lulu at 5 a.m. for a feeding.

Well….. maybe not at 5 a.m. 🙂

 

Grrrrr… October 26, 2009

Filed under: Motherhood — domesticallydunn @ 10:11 am

I am in need of your prayers.

I am in an extremely grumpy mood this morning.  It has been a very difficult 8 days, and I am tired.

We have been holed up in this house the entire time, except a brief 30 minute excursion to Walgreens for meds.The kids and I are going stir-crazy.  Unfortunately right now, the hubs has a six day workweek and even has to work some evenings.  And the kids have not been sleeping well due to Lovebug’s sickness and possibly teething for Lulu.  Who knows?  Hubs has been sleeping downstairs because we definitely do not want him sick. So far he hasn’t gotten it, but today he woke up with a runny nose and body aches. Soooo, we’ll see.

In addition, Lovebug’s temperature spiked again last night, and he has been coughing more.  This means I have to keep an extra-close eye on him to make sure he doesn’t develop a secondary infection. I thought he was getting better.  Wrong.

Don’t get me wrong, I am thankful we are all not seriously ill, but this does stink.  And I need an attitude adjustment.

Please pray for my patience, energy, and ability to keep the kids entertained and happy while all of this is going on.

Thanks,